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10-15-2007 5:03 PM -- By: lorihughart,    Critters.com memorial:   Missy Memorial
Today its been 4 months. We went to your resting place yesterday. We miss you so much. You are always in my heart and I think of you a hundred times a day because you were such a part of my life. No one could ever replace you. I love you forever.....

10-15-2007 8:28 AM -- By: Amber,    Critters.com memorial:   Nvwati Memorial
Ohoh Dollie a teenager! now that IS scary! LOL........ Dollies' going to have a blast on Tuesday! I can't wait to hear all about it!Oh my goodness your birthday picture is ..... well........ er..........um............ priceless! And I promised I didnt laugh!

10-15-2007 8:25 AM -- By: Amber,    Critters.com memorial:   Nvwati Memorial
Kelly, I too spent days crying til I thought my heart would explode. When we truly love our animals and they are like family to me it hurts in ways only those of who experience this can imagine. I think when its unexpected, as it was in Cal and Nvwati's cases its the SHOCK that is worse. Although shock helps "pad" us for a few days we still feel such sorrow. I have NO doubt that your little guy is with your hamsters and hermit crabs! And I know Nvwati would appreciate the sweet sounds of a bird in his choir up there! I had to laugh at your goofball dimwit dog because Mkwaa bless her little heart is much like that too! Listen, I know you feel guilty but please don't. Why Cal chose that moment to hang himself with his toy is beyond me, but it was obviously his time to go. Let me tell you a true story. I was outside in late May when one of my neighbours came out and started to cry. I of course put my arms around her and asked her why she was so upset. She told me she was visiting her mom with her bird, and as always, her bird was flying around. Her mom got up and made some tea then returned to the couch to sit down.A bit later they couldnt find the bird.. they looked EVERYWHERE. Finally they looked on the couch and saw that her mom had sat on the bird killing it and didn't even know! Too weird! Kelly know that your grief WILL change. You will always love and miss your little Cal but in time the pain will not hurt as much.

10-14-2007 9:05 PM -- By: Dollie,    Critters.com memorial:   Dollie Memorial
Hey ya'll. I just wanted everyone to know that I've seen all those Happy Birthday wishes in my guestbook. And I want to thank each and everyone of you. Why, I can't believe that I'm gonna' be a teenager this Tuesday. Gosh! Anywaz, daddy has my birthday picture posted down towards the bottom of my page. Drop by and check it out. But you'd Better Not laugh at me. (tee-hee..;)

I love you All and thank you for being my daddy's and my friend from the bottom of my little heart. Dot.

10-14-2007 5:57 PM -- By: Kelly,    Critters.com memorial:   Calcifur Memorial
Thank you so much Amber. I am sorry for the late response, I had to get out of the house and every time I see Cal's picture I start to bawl my eyes out. It's getting a little better but nothing I do can get that horrible image out of my mind of when I found him ( I really hope I don't freak anyone out or anything but he had strangled himself on his toy and I just had to walk in and find him ). Maybe it will fade with time. Maybe Cal met up with my two hamsters and hermit crabs I had in third grade too ( heh heh ). Hope he's having a good time. But I think something good has come out of this, as hard as this is to say. I am definitely appreciating the time I have left with my two wonderful, sweet cats and my goofball, dimwit (laughs) dog. I wish I could've at least said goodbye though. Oh and Nvwati is beautiful. Best of luck to you, Amber. I read a bit of your memorial and Nvwati sounded like such a sweet heart. Why must all good things come to an end?

10-14-2007 5:36 PM -- By: ,    Pet's name:   
Little Dollie has a b-u-n-c-h of b'day wishes. And she has a GREAT NEW SONG. Lets try and cheer her daddy up everyone! and remember sweet little Dollie.

10-14-2007 3:56 PM -- By: Amber,    Critters.com memorial:   Nvwati Memorial
I just visited Dollie's website again. She was soooooooo precious. Sent her Birthday wishes as well

10-14-2007 1:17 PM -- By: Amber,    Critters.com memorial:   Nvwati Memorial
Oh I am so sorry for the loss of your sweet little bird Cacifur. I found when I lost my beloved dog Nvwati a little over 2 weeks ago that building his website and connecting with others who lost pets helped me tremendously.I hear theres a special part of Rainbow Bridge just for birds and the dogs and cats on the Bridge don't bug birds.Know your Calcifur was met by our darlings when he got there.

10-14-2007 11:54 AM -- By: Kelly,    Critters.com memorial:   Calcifur Memorial
My precious darling bird. It's been but two hours since you've been gone and I can't stop crying. They say guilt doesn't help anything but why can't I stop feeling it??? You were far too young to go I don't understand what I did wrong. We were together only such a short time. It isn't fair. I love you so much even though I didn't even realize it entirely before. I will miss you so much. If only I could hold you one more more and hear you do that adorable wolf whistle I taught you. Maybe we will meet again some day my beautiful, sweet, darling bird. There's a ragged hole in my heart where you used to be. I hope you are happy I love you so much.

10-13-2007 7:26 PM -- By: ,    Critters.com memorial:   Dollie Memorial
Little Dollies Birthday is coming up on October 16th..Lets not forget to send Dollie Birthday wishes in Heaven.

10-13-2007 9:42 AM -- By: Amber,    Critters.com memorial:   Nvwati Memorial
Ohhhhhhh Auntee Mz......... Yes its like Nvwati is laughing at us saying "Here ya go.... you both need something to do now that I am not here to demand your constant attention". Little does he know... or he PROBABLY does, that he is rarely far from our thoughts if we are not speaking to someone about him. Its so hard because as we see people we haven't seen in a while, the first thing they do is ask "Where's Nvwati?" and it reopens that scar once again. Im glad you enjoyed your visit to Nvwati's page. Yes I am native so I guess the nativeness comes out eh? LOL..... Its still surreal. I was supposed to die before Nvwati......... or so I told him. .. over and over again. But I believe that he and Creator knew what was best and this happened for a reason. I can't afford to pay for this memorial so it will be altered today to text only. A shame since he was so beautiful that others won't be able to see his beauty. Hopefully I can still add to the site.

10-13-2007 9:09 AM -- By: Auntee Mz,    Critters.com memorial:   Cinderella and ToTo Memorial
Jeannie, you have been in my thoughts and congratulations on your new addition. Especially hope Mollie worms her way into your husband's heart to help with it healing.

Nuts! Missed Blossom's birthday party, did post some belated well wishes. Next year for sure.

Amber, fostering is a generous and great idea! Still get to hear the patter of little paws, which I so sorely miss. Hmmm - if Boxcar Willy and I don't connect, will give it much thought. Visted your memorial for Nvwati and I liked the nativeness and sense of spirituality surrounding it. I'm only sorry you are here because of the loss of your special loved one.

To all, blessings and hugs. I too so so miss My Girls -the companionship and friendship. This was my birthday week, their gift has been the memories and remembering their unconditional love.

10-13-2007 9:06 AM -- By: Amber,    Critters.com memorial:   Nvwati Memorial
Thank you for posting tis prayer. Its sooooo true! Unfortunately not all dog owners live up to the responsibilities or the needs of our beloved fur babies. To some a dog is........ well JUST A DOG! I am fortunate that I was raised to respect all living creatures be they furbabies or human beings and I at least don't carry guilt over how my beloved Nvwati ( Or Mkwaa who is still here with me thank God!) spent their lives. Its often not until a person loses their dog to death that they stop and say DUH Maybe I shouldnt have done so and so, or maybe I should have brought my dog to obedience classes or maybe I should have spent more time with my dog rather than being on my computer or on the phone or watching tv. I only wish that people who havent yet lost their dogs to death could find this Pets Prayer before its too late. Again, thank you!

10-12-2007 11:57 PM -- By: ,    Pet's name:   
Pets Prayer

Dear Lord: Please watch over our humans, they are so weak. They have no claws or teeth, they can't run fast or fly away, neither can they burrow or build a nest in which to be safe. They smell bad, do strange things that aren't altogether intelligent, have no real ability to communicate with us, although we are able to figure out what they want.

Lord, grant us the ability to watch over our humans, care for them, cheer them when they are down, make them laugh, smile, and shower them with our love. We pray that we can bring a little joy into their otherwise mundane existence.

Lord, please let them know that when we insist on getting attention, it is so we can check their emotional well being and boost their morale When we pester them for different foods, toys, etc., it's so they will learn to see us in ways they hadn't considered, bringing them closer and back into the fold ... which they are part of but keep forgetting about.

They expect us to know what they want even though sometimes they don't know what we want. Some of them really try and we know they love us but some of them are so dumb yet our love for them remains intensely unfaltering.

Lord, when we die, please make sure to send us ahead to where ever our humans are going to be, so we can pave the way for them, vouch for them and be there for them when they too die..

Please allow us to continue proving the humans are worth the effort. You placed these humans in dominion over us, but you charged us with the task of caring for them and showing them your love every day, through us.

God bless these mere mortal humans, they know not that we are their guardian angels sent in love to task them so that they may grow to be part of your plan.

10-12-2007 1:40 PM -- By: Judy,    Critters.com memorial:   Junior Jadeja Memorial
On November 11th, It will be Junior Jadeja's Birthday..Lets not forget to send him Birthday wishes in Heaven.

10-11-2007 12:42 AM -- By: Brenda,    Pet's name:   Scooter
I got a message from some one who has a pet called MY BLOSSOM and i cant find there page. If u remember sending a line to scooter and tiger please send me another page fer your blossom. Happy Birthday Blossom if i dont get to talk with your mom and dad.

10-09-2007 11:37 AM -- By: Judy Green,    Critters.com memorial:   Blossom Green Memorial
On October 11th my Blossom would be 8 years old if she was living..Would you visit her Memorial and Guestbook and wish her a Happy Birthday in Heaven for me.

10-09-2007 10:52 AM -- By: Amber,    Critters.com memorial:   Nvwati Memorial
Jeannie congratulations on your new pup! May you enjoy many many years of joy with Mollie!

10-09-2007 1:09 AM -- By: Jeannie,    Critters.com memorial:   Gypsy Rose Memorial
Gypsy Rose, daddy and I adopted a beautiful baby girl from the Humane Society. We saved her, as she is sick with a respiratory infection and at least 15 pounds under weight. We will be nursing her back to health. I feel if we didn't adopt her, she would have been put to sleep as she is so skinny. I asked her when we arrived if she wanted to go home with us and she put her paw in the air. She is wonderful. Daddy really didn't want to get another baby at this time, but I really need a companion in my life to make it through. Please watch over our newest member Mollie, you would be so proud of her. Daddy is coming around also. We though Mollie was a dalmatian/border collie mix, but now we think she is a pointer/whippet mix. She is long and lean. I really miss you my beloved baby, Mollie makes so of the more difficult times a little more bearable. She can never take your place my beloved girl. With Mollie here, I can now start to talk about you, and our beautiful memories together. She has met you, and I talk to her about you and the things we did together. I LOVE YOU AND MISS YOU. I wish I could have a sign that you are okay, or see you in my dreams. Always remember me and daddy, as you can never be forgotten. Love Mommy.

10-08-2007 4:21 PM -- By: Victoria,    Critters.com memorial:   Poppy Memorial
My beloved Poppy was put to sleep on October 4th and I have never felt pain like it.

Anybody going through the same I totally understand.

God Bless

Love Victoria x

10-08-2007 12:46 PM -- By: Amber,    Critters.com memorial:   Nvwati Memorial
Auntee Mz I so understand. My vet suggested I consider adopting another fur baby for my Mkwaa who was left alone without Nvwati as well......... but Im not there yet. I have been considering fostering fur babies who need that extra bit of care though. NOTHING could ever replace Nvwati as you all are aware of, and for this reason I would hesitate right now to adopt another, but foster........maybe

10-07-2007 11:19 AM -- By: Auntee Mz,    Critters.com memorial:   Cinderella and ToTo Memorial
Losing the Girls has made me introspective. I've done more thinking about life, death and belief systems these last 90 days then I have in the last 10 years. It's exhausting.

I've read several entries, where people like me, don't have any other babies at home. Like me, they comment on the possibility in the far future of having another. Some how we seem to have to justify this is not a replacement for our ones that just passed. Deep down we all know that to be true, but some how there is guilt in the thinking.

My recent AAHHH moment is - the time will be different for each one of us. For some sooner and others later. I read an article that men in good marriages remarried sooner then those in unhappy ones. Those of us posting here had wonderful relationships, memories and experiences with our fur babies.

Why wouldn't we want that companionship and relationship again? I asked The Girls to keep an eye out for a critter that would need me and I them. When the time was right, and I thought that would be well into the future. Well, I think it is happening sooner then later.

I'm doing the introspective thing -I had twenty years with not just good dogs, but great dogs. Maybe its' time to step up to the plate and not go for the great dog, but one that could use what My Girls gave me and taught me.

I'm considering rescuing an abandoned dog from another state. It is in sorry shape. A 10 lb mix breed that is dehydrated, skinny, manged, shy and fearful of people. All fixable with an open heart, attention and care. I see Mz Cindy's paw in this and I think they both would cheer me on.

10-06-2007 2:17 PM -- By: buster mommy,    Critters.com memorial:   BUSTER Memorial
Hello my little busterbaby, Its been seven weeks since we let you go,and the pain still ripes me apart, i can not mention your name with out crying, every thing about you is all round the house,as time goes by i think its getting harder,me and your daddy have nothing to talk about at night when we get home from work,it was you that made our life so full,you where so special and we loved you more than anything,all i keep thinking about that friday when the vet came to the house and totally messed up, and i just pray you did not know or feel what went wrong and you went in peace and not fright and all i can keep saying is im so sorry and i wish i could turn the clock back and done things diffrently,and the memorie of that day will stay with me for ever, and i will never ever forgive our vet,and it easy for people to say to me you have to move on and forget what happened, \\but i can't// you where my little busterbaby and always will be, no one could ever take your place, and if in time we do have another little baby it will not be to replace you it will be in memorie of you, YOU WILL BE A HARD ACT TO FOLLOW,you have left us the greatest memories for us to treasure, and i thank you for 13 years you gave us, so my little mate i will look up and blow you the biggesr kiss, and please look down on me and just give that big smile, You will always be in my heart forever, love you always, please lord take care of him, he's specialxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

10-06-2007 8:23 AM -- By: Auntee Mz,    Critters.com memorial:   Cinderella and ToTo Memorial
This is one of those bench mark dates. My babies passed three months ago today. I sure do miss them. Just wanted you to know my thoughts and prayers are with you all.

For those with recent loss, this is a great place to come and read all the differnt ways people grieve and heal. There are great teachers here. Their memorials and comments are about love, loss and hope. Very inspirational. You all are so special and I thank you for being here.

I made an entry on The Girls Journal Page. Hope you will stop by and visit and read. I love and miss you Mz Cindy and ToTo Girls!

10-06-2007 1:24 AM -- By: Jeannie,    Critters.com memorial:   Gypsy Rose Memorial
Gypsy Rose, I miss you so much it hurts. Daddy is having a hard time with you not being here. He isn't himself right now. He misses your Friday's together and going to garage sales in the tahoe. I think less about the last 4 days of your life, but daddy and I still do not talk about you yet. I can talk a little about you with my co-workers. I am just afraid I will cry, if I talk about you with daddy, I don't want to relive those last 4 days. I sent Olivia 2 pictures of you, she talks about you, she says if she has a picture of you, then you are not with "Our Heavenly Father" because you are alive in the pictures. Daddy and I are going to the Humane Society tomorrow, we will be meeting a new girl to possibly come and live with us. I am excited and a little sad and scared. I hope if she comes home with us, I can raise her well with your guidence. I hope you watch over her. Her name is Molly and she is beautiful just like you. This new baby can never take your place, you will get to meet her when she comes home. You will always be in my heart, I will never forget you, my precious bubbas. I will be saving a life and creating a new forever home. I still haven't seen you in my dreams, but maybe I can start having some peace in my heart, and start living again, as I will have a new life to care for. I will share some of our most precious memories with Molly, your memory will be kept alive through our stories and wonderful times together. I LOVE YOU AND MISS YOU MY PRECIOUS BOO-BOO.

10-04-2007 8:10 PM -- By: betty,    Critters.com memorial:   Luigi Memorial
lugi ya just left me and your girlfriend Taffy..i miss you so much..love you till i die...you were my rock..miss you so much you were here for me when my sister Sophie died..she just loved you miss you my babycakes. love mama

10-04-2007 1:39 PM -- By: Cindy,    Critters.com memorial:   Cricket Ann Memorial
Cricket was such an amazing girl. I'll never forget the first time I met her as an orphan who was less than a day old. I've never known such a connection as I did with that beautiful tortie girl. We were a team who could read each other in such amazing ways. That's how I knew when it was time for her to leave my sight and wait for me at the Rainbow Bridge. She did not go alone, and I know that God's hand lifted her up. I said a prayer to her sister Tiddy Tat, to meet Cricket at the Bridge and guide her as she explored her new life. I know they're there together as evidenced by the visit I had the night Cricket was pts. I have had a couple of visits from one or both of them and those visits are such a comfort. I think everyone here would agree that it eases the grief somewhat to know our furbabies are whole and well again, even if a bit sad at parting with their moms and dads for a time. I love reading the posts from everyone - I feel so much less alone in my grief. Thank you to all for being there on the good days, the bad days and the inbetween days. Blessings to all. Cindy.

10-03-2007 8:40 PM -- By: Linda,    Pet's name:   Bailey
I enjoyed reading the poem Richard, it made me a little sad because I look back and think maybe I could of spent more time with Bailey, taking him to the park etc...but because of our busy lives we sometimes concentrate on things that are not that important and overlook many things that are. I did hug and kiss him alot though, and I know that he knew how much he was loved. Its been over a month now, and sometimes I still break down. I look at his ashes and still cannot believe it. Sometimes I can still hear him snorting near my bedroom door. God I miss him so much!! They say time heals all wounds, I wonder how true this really is???

10-03-2007 1:28 PM -- By: lisa,    Pet's name:   samantha-melissa.critters.com
Hello, Comfort and peace to all of you who have lost a precious part of your heart.I lost my little one just over 3 months ago. My prayers and thoughts are with you as you grieve and remember your furry friends.

Sam was not just a dog,or a pet to me,,she truly was not only just family ,but she was a part of my heart....Even now ,I miss her each day and as life has gone on,,and days have past, the sun rises and sets,and this world revolves as before ,i am still so very sadly affected by the loss of my her....

In the first few months ,,moments ,days i found my self in grief unspeakable,unable to fuction, unable to stop myself from crying upbursts, lost in the emotions and moments without her, My prayer is that as the immediate grief and its heart stopping,life changing intensity will soften...That we can all realizeand give thanks for the gifts we have received in the sweet times and friendship we had with our departed angels....

They loved us,,made us braver, sillier, kinder, more compassionate just by there very presence.. Sam..my sweet thing,,I know you rest in peace,, and play with wild abandon,in a meadow, green and sunny,, I take great comfort in knowing you are well and healthy... You have been for me sunshine ,and joy,,I miss you with a tenderness and care that time will never alter,, no matter how many days pass ,or seasons change...

All of our hearts ,ache and love deeply,those we called our very special and beloved kids in fur...smile.. Please stop by samanthas site and share her life,,and story,,im sure it will make you smile,,, samantha-melissa.critters.com

May god bless and keep you in his peace,,and tender care...Lisa


10-02-2007 9:42 PM -- By: Richard,    Critters.com memorial:   Dollie Memorial
A dear friend sent me this. Some of you may have already read this. I hadn't. I thought it too good not to pass on:

I Am Your Dog...

I am your dog, and I have a little something I'd like to whisper in your ear. I know that you humans lead busy lives. Some have to work, some have children to raise. It always seems like you are running here and running there, often much too fast, often never noticing the truly grand things in life.

Look down at me now, while you sit there at your computer. See the way my dark brown eyes look at yours? They are slightly cloudy now. That comes with age. The gray hairs are beginning to ring my soft muzzle. You smile at me; I see love in your eyes. What do you see in mine? Do you see a spirit? A soul inside, who loves you as no other could in the world? A spirit that would forgive all trespasses of prior wrong doing for just a simple moment of your time?

That is all I ask. To slow down, if even for a few minutes, to be with me. So many times you have been saddened by the words you read on that screen, of others of my kind, passing. Sometimes we die young and oh so quickly, sometimes so suddenly it wrenches your heart out of your throat. Sometimes, we age so slowly before your eyes that you may not even seem to know until the very end, when we look at you with grizzled muzzles and cataract clouded eyes. Still the love is always there, even when we must take that long sleep, to run free in a distant land.

I may not be here tomorrow; I may not be here next week. Someday you will shed the water from your eyes, that humans have when deep grief fills their souls, and you will be angry at yourself that you did not have just "one more day" with me.

Because I love you so, your sorrow touches my spirit and grieves me. We have NOW, together. So come, sit down here next to me on the floor, and look deep into my eyes. What do you see? If you look hard and deep enough we will talk, you and I, heart to heart. Come to me not as "alpha" or as "trainer" or even "Mom or Dad". Come to me as a living soul and stroke my fur and let us look deep into one another's eyes and talk. I may tell you something about the fun of chasing a tennis ball, or I may tell you something profound about myself, or even life in general. You decided to have me in your life because you wanted a soul to share such things with. Someone very different from you, and here I am.

I am a dog, but I am alive. I feel emotion, I feel physical senses, and I can revel in the differences of our spirits and souls. I do not think of you as a "dog on two feet" - I know what you are and who you are. You are human, in all your quirkiness, and I love you still.

Now, come sit with me, on the floor. Enter my world, and let time slow down if only for 15 minutes. Look deep into my eyes, and whisper into my ears. Speak with your heart, with your joy, and I will know your true self. We may not have tomorrow, but we do have today, and life is oh so very short. So please . . . come sit with me now and let us share these precious moments we have together.

Love, on behalf of canines everywhere, Your Dog

 

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