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07-09-2008 10:13 PM -- By: Bev B,    Critters.com memorial:   Klaus Memorial
To our critter friends, please don't forget that today also marks Killer's Angel Day as well.  He and Klaus entered onto Rainbow Bridge at the same time and have been best buddies since. 

07-09-2008 6:21 PM -- By: Jessica, Sunny,    Critters.com memorial:   Sunny Memorial
To all my friends here at critters.com, I am so happy that Sunny is being remembered on a site with such special fur babies. I want to sign all your friend's guestbook's, but thats too much reading and crying. In general, I want to say something to all these departed animal's friends and families: Thank you for providing your departed pet(s) with the life you did. They are happy now with my Sunny. To Sunny: You have a special place in my heart that no animal can ever replace. GOD BLESS

07-09-2008 4:44 PM -- By: Stacy Allen,    Critters.com memorial:   Minnie Memorial
I am just wondering when/if  the "something bad is going to happen" cloud is going to lift?  I am scared to let my 10 year old cat and 12 week old kitten do anything.  I have become the ultimate "overprotective mom!"  Whenever the kitties are together, I watch that the older one doesn't kill the little one.  Also, when the kitten's twin comes for a "play date" I watch them like a hawk and separate them every time they tumble around screaming and biting at each other.  I also let my older cat outside on a harness and leash while I do my gardening.  He is never far from me and NEVER out of my sight.  I am not sure how to change this behavior, but it is making me a nervous wreck!  Please, somebody HELP! 

07-09-2008 11:39 AM -- By: Bev B.,    Critters.com memorial:   Klaus Memorial
To all of my friends here at critters, thank you so much for remembering Klaus' Angel Day (I love that term). Yes, today will be a difficult day, but I hope to remember Klaus' life in a happy way and celebrate the blessing he was to me. I know it will be tough though to keep from tearing up. I am in the process of writing a new page for Klaus' website and will be adding some pictures as well. I want to take this time to thank the creators of critters.com. I don't know how I could have coped with Klaus' passing without this beautiful site. Everyone here has been so kind and heartwarming in their thoughts and prayers - you all were truly a blessing to me and you truly are the people your pets knew you to be.  I know my Klaus is in a better place free from all pain and illness and having a blast with all of his new friends at Rainbow Bridge.  He was the special part in my life that I speak of fondly, and for that I am thankful and blessed to have been given that opportunity.  Thank you Klaus....

07-09-2008 9:21 AM -- By: Lauvern,    Critters.com memorial:   butler Memorial
 

Hi Everyone, I just wanted to let you all know Butler's mommy ,Jules is having another surgery on Friday.Please give her your support and keep her in your prayers.I am sure her precious angel Butler will be watching over her........Thankyou all.  hugs.

07-09-2008 12:35 AM -- By: Sheba,    Critters.com memorial:   Sheba Memorial
Today is our friend Klaus's Angel Day. Please stop by to give him and his family some love.

07-08-2008 9:29 PM -- By: Scooter'sMom,    Critters.com memorial:   Scooter Memorial
It's been 5 days since I took Scooter in, held her in her big fluffy blanket and, and wept as the vet gently put her to sleep.  She's not in pain anymore, but I have an ache that I've never felt this deeply before. She would have been 12 in August.  I lost her the day before my birthday and I can't pull myself together.  I cried at work again today.  I cried in the car and I'm crying now.  When I came home today and she wasn't there, wagging her butt and smiling at me I sat on the floor and sobbed.  I'm sleeping on the couch.  She always stayed in my room when I wasn't home and I can't open that door and have her not be there.  I've slept on the couch since Thursday.   I can't eat.  I'm not sleeping much and the sleep I'm getting is fitful and tormented.  The house is horribly quiet and still.  It's not really a home now... just a house.  I'm shuffling around my empty house aching with every thought of her.

My family had dogs when I was young and I was sad when they died.  She was MY  first dog.  It was just the 2 of us.

She was my soul, she was my life, I ache when I realize I'll never hold her, pet her, walk her, laugh with her, play with her again. 

I don't know how I'm going to get through this.  

People tell me to get another dog and give it all my love, but I couldn't even care for a dog right now.  I'm not even caring for myself.  I don't know if I'll ever have another dog.  I can't imagine going through this again.

I just had to say this.  I had to put words to the pain.  I hoped it would help.

07-08-2008 9:37 AM -- By: Carole :(,    Critters.com memorial:   Shabba Lou Turner Memorial
Thank you all so much for your support! I am having an extremely tough time. I can't seem to pull it together "at all." This grief...this ache...this pain...I hurt so bad. 

I will be writing back to you all in a few days. You are not forgotten. Right now it's all I can do to get up and go to work. For some odd reason I really thought I'd be able to handle it better this time. I thought with all the studying about grief and going through it with Ebony last year I'd somehow be stronger.  I had more than a year to "try" and prepare for this with Shabba. There is no prepartion...we are never ready. How off-base I was!

You are all so very special to me, and I ache for every one of us that has to bare our emotions to the world, in such a sad and intense way. I'll be talking to you soon. Thank you all for understaning!

Love and hugs from Shabba, Ebony and Carole.

07-07-2008 3:19 AM -- By: Deb,    Critters.com memorial:   Gus Memorial
Sorry, Gus, my parrot, my friend.  I typed in the wrong ID number below and linked you to a dog.  Sorry to the dog, too.

07-07-2008 3:12 AM -- By: Deb,    Critters.com memorial:   Mocha Mutt Memorial
July, 2008  It would have been 22 years that we had you., Gus.  But I had to stop at 21.  I got my T-shirt back with the Mark Twain quote: "She's not dignified, she's not undignified... she keeps a parrot"  I keep your ashes, but not in your little yellow Parrot Lard food tin;, it was taken with the rest of your belongings.  I saw the house where you lived (died?) the last 3 months of your life. 

You deserved better, my little goofball. You deserved to have me near you and comfort you and say goodbye to you.  You should not have died alone and scared.  You should not have died.

07-07-2008 12:42 AM -- By: Melissa,    Pet's name:   Sugar
It's been one week (to the hour) since I lost my beautiful Sugar.  She was 11 1/2, a Great Pyranees.  She is one of the greatest joys in my life and so far, her loss the greatest pain I've ever experienced.  During this last week I cleaned the house of all reminders that she is still with us.  As hard as it was, it was just too painful to see them and for a split second forget she is gone forever.   I also find myself doing crazy things like looking for anything with her hairs when before I use to pluck them from everything (Pyrs shed alot).   If she were here with me she would try to comfort me by nudging me with her nose.  Her loss is still so recent and I realize in time the intense heartache I feel will diminish. 

07-06-2008 3:25 AM -- By: AunteeMz,    Critters.com memorial:   Cinderella and ToTo Memorial

It’s been a year today and a day does not go by that My Girls are not in my heart or mind. That is the message I would like to share with those of us that have and are going through this. What I do in their memory is that- remember.  My Girls are loved and missed and I will never forget what they brought to my life. Be at peace Ms Cindy and Ms Toto.

07-05-2008 3:50 PM -- By: June,    Critters.com memorial:   Obsidian Memorial
Sad day today, she's been gone 4 months. Just wanted to thank everyone for being there and making her loss alittle easier.

07-05-2008 12:04 PM -- By: Christy Gretas Mom,    Critters.com memorial:   Greta Abigail Memorial

I am so very, very grateful to each and every one of you. I never in my wildest dreams imagined I could have met so many people with such beautiful hearts and unending bounty of knowledge. Though we are faced with many obstacles in life I think losing a loved one, be it human or fur-covered, is the most difficult one to date. Greta had been gone just over a month and I could not have imagined my life without her before I met all of you, now I realize that she lives forever in my heart just as all of you will. Hugs, Christy

07-05-2008 3:15 AM -- By: Jeannie,    Critters.com memorial:   Gypsy Rose Memorial
Happy 4th of July to all the beautiful babies.  This day, I thought of you my precious Gypsy Rose, for today was always a very scary day for you with the fireworks.  You had such an awful time on the 4th of July, your terror of the loud noises, made your life miserable.  Daddy and I could not even comfort you, it always broke my heart the misery you went through every year.  Even using sedatives did not help.  Today I'm thankful that you are safe in Heaven with all of your new friends, and that you are no longer scared.  I am thankful that you no longer have to endure the misery of the loud noises,  I am thankful that I can finally rest knowing you are safe, and that I can sleep at night knowing that you no longer have any fear.  I miss you my sweet girl, more than anything.  I love you very much.  Happy 4th of July, my Gypsy Rose......no more fear, no more pain and no more misery.  Love Mommy. 

07-05-2008 1:28 AM -- By: Jessica-Mileena's Momma,    Critters.com memorial:   Baby Mileena Memorial
It's been about a week since Mileena's been gone. I only had her just over three weeks, but I am still having rough periods here and there. The hardest thing is that my other female, Reagan is experiencing behavioral problems since Mileena passed. She was a mother figure to her and even tried to save her once she got caught up by her collar. I know it sounds funny, but how do I help Reagan deal with the loss as well?

07-04-2008 9:07 PM -- By: kimberly,    Pet's name:   willie
Dear Cheri and Amber,

Thank you so much for your kind words.  It's funny, Amber, that you said "sweet Willie" because that was his name--Sweet William.  And I am so grateful for the time I had--that little boy changed my life.  I guess that's why I feel like I don't want to go on without him.  I just wish he knew how much he did and will always mean to me.  I still feel like I have a knife in my heart--actually, that might even be less painful.  I was so dreading coming home from work that next day because I knew he wouldn't be there, wouldn't be running full speed and sliding to a stop on the wood floor, stubby little tail wagging to beat the band.  I still can hardly bear the pain.  Today, we went to a park, saw two yorkies and I nearly lost my mind.  The loss is intense and ovewhelming and the grief is bottomless.  And I will never not miss him.  This is so hard.

07-04-2008 2:39 PM -- By: Linda (ceese,    Critters.com memorial:   Ceese Memorial
Hi everyone,

Mo is still doing okay.  Not terribly chipper, but eating and drinking well and seems comfortable.

Many of you know that I lost my precious Ceese about 7 months ago.  I had no intention of adding any new critters to the household until after Mo passes.  Last week a very pregnant  cat appeared at my daughters (about 7 months old) who looked very much like Ceese.  I was not sure what to do, but after a couple days, I rushed her to the vet, she got spayed yesterday and she will be joining me at my house next week.  Completely unplanned, but it feels as though Ceese brought her to me.  My computer is down, hopefully will be working next week.  I will keep everyone posted.  New kitty, had a very difficult surgery, so I will be worried for a few days. Linda

07-04-2008 7:15 AM -- By: Amber,    Critters.com memorial:   Nvwati and Yukon Jack Memorial
Kimberly,

When Nvwati  died in Sept. suddenly and unexpectedly, I too felt like I could not go on without him. We were SO connected! As he lay on that table after his autopsy I was holding him and crying and asked him to take me with him. My other dog, Mkwaa grieved so badly she stopped eating, wasn't interested in playing and it broke my heart that she would pace all the time looking for her brother.

Finally I agreed to take in another 10 year  old husky  who desperately needed a loving home. Yukon Jack  was another healthy dog who shared our home and hearts for only 8 months before he passed away in May.

For those of us who truly love our furbabies, it is not the length of time we shared with them on earth but the connection we have with them.

I have found that building their memorials at critters has helped me deal with my grief.

Good luck hon.

07-03-2008 9:43 PM -- By: Brian,    Critters.com memorial:   Roxy Girl Memorial
It is amazing how grief may subside for awhile and then all of a sudden come back like it was the day of. My Roxy Girl died almost two months ago and I finally go the mind set to finally place a tribute on Critters. What a day, I feel like I got hit by a truck. crying most of the day while reading and proof reading. What a hole thats left from a wonderful pet.

07-03-2008 7:27 PM -- By: Cheri (Coco's Mommy),    Critters.com memorial:   Coco Memorial
Kimberly, please know that many of us understand the depth of your love for your little boy and the loss that you feel. Try to find some comfort in knowing that you gave him 6 months filled with unwavering love and care that he may not have had without you. You are not alone in your grief. So many of us at Critters have been through the same pain and some are still struggling.  We are here for you. We share in your burden. We understand. We are in this together and we will get through this together. Keep putting one foot in front of the other. Cry when you feel like crying. Sometimes it will feel like the tears will never stop, but they will.....eventually. And even then, there will be days when the tears will catch you by surprise and you'll wonder where they came from, but, with each passing day, it will get a little easier. You were blessed to have 6 months with a special little boy. Treasure that time. Remember the laughs and love and let the memories make you smile. He will always be in your heart. Be still and listen and you will feel him all around you. Lean on the wonderful, compassionate people here at Critters. You will get through this. I will keep you in my prayers.

07-03-2008 5:51 PM -- By: Linda (Ceese,    Critters.com memorial:   Ceese Memorial
Hi Everyone,

Mo is hanging in there and seems fairly comfortable and is eating well.

I wanted to share a story with you.  I had no intention of getting any new cats until Mo had passed.  Two days ago a pregnant 7 month old cat appeared at my daughters and she looks much like Ceese did at the same age.  Needless to say, I could not let the poor girl live on the streets.  She is at the vet today being spayed and getting vacinated.  Funny, I lost Ceese 7 months ago and have felt sad every since.  It feels as though she sent me a new baby.

07-03-2008 5:39 PM -- By: kimberly,    Pet's name:   willie
I have to reach out to someone.  I am hurting so much--my heart is in a million pieces.  I lost the best friend I've ever had.  My little boy Willie, my baby yorkie, died yesterday.  He was only 11months old.  His little heart gave out.  I knew this was possible, I chose to keep him after we found out.  But this is the first animal I have ever had such a connection with.  It's the first time I've ever given or experienced truly unconditional love.  He kept me sane over the short six months I had him.  My best friend.  I can hardly bear the pain.  How do you handle this?  I wanted to curl up next to him and just disappear myself.  I can't stop crying.  I don't know anyone who might understand how much this hurts.  The grief is overwhelming.  I miss him unbearably.  A huge part of me died with him yesterday.  The loss created huge hole in my life that will never again be filled.  I honestly don't know how to handle this pain...

07-03-2008 3:35 PM -- By: angie,    Critters.com memorial:   Rocky Memorial
It has been 5 days since I lost my beloved Rocky. Losing him was so.................................hard,the pain is so intense. I missed  him so much,will the pain ever go away?????

07-03-2008 3:08 PM -- By: Alyce,    Critters.com memorial:   Bobo Memorial
Judy, Prayers and a card going out to Jamie , please keep us posted. Hugs, Alyce

07-03-2008 1:58 PM -- By: Tracie Lil Joe,    Critters.com memorial:   Lil Joe Memorial
To all my Wonderful Friends.. Thinking of you all and keeping you in Prayers... My heart breaks all over again everytime I see so many wonderful babies join my Lil Joe in Heaven, It stirs up all the emotions I have about losing my Lil Boy, I know its been a while but I can still see him everywhere I look and then I keep having those thoughts of my other two kids, hitting the age were everything went wrong with my Lil Joe, I do everything I can to make sure I'm spending so so much time with them while we are here together. It is so amazing that you can have such an amazing wonderful bond with our furbabies, I guess because they don't judge you and are always there for you when you just need someone to sit by you or to look up at you and let you know you will make it.. Well I  have been missing my Lil Joe terribly lately, I know he's watching over us. But I think my heart will always be broken, so I wanted to make sure to let everyone here, I truly appreciate you all.. I'm wishing you a Safe and Happy 4th July..

Sending you all Hugs...Tracie Lil Joe's Mommy

07-02-2008 11:51 PM -- By: Lindsay,    Pet's name:   Roscoe
We lost our Roscoe last night and it is with a shattered heart that I write this.  He was a 10 year old rottweiler and had been a cherished member of our family since he was only 5 weeks old.  I knew this was going to be hard but I don't think you can really know until they slip away with that last breathe.  We have had the last year to prepare since his diagnosis with osteosarcoma but really how do you prepare to lose such an important part of your life.  Reading the stories and memorials on this site have helped to make it through my first day with him not here.  The reminders are everywhere and the questions from my 4 year old and 1 year old wanting to know where their Roscoe has gone are heart wrenching.  He is loved dearly and will be missed deeply.  Thank you for listening, Lindsay

07-02-2008 8:50 PM -- By: Rusty,    Critters.com memorial:   Georgia Memorial
Georgia has been heavy on my heart this week.

07-02-2008 5:11 PM -- By: Christy Gretas Mom,    Critters.com memorial:   Greta Abigail Memorial

I am broken-hearted missing my angel today, it has been one month as of today-will this pain ever go away????? 

07-02-2008 3:03 PM -- By: Judy Green,    Critters.com memorial:   Blossom Green Memorial
Blossom's Brother Jamie was in a Peddle Bike Accident..He broke his Back, Collar Bone and broke a Bone in his Face and is having Blood Pressure Problems....He needs Prayers right now and Support..He is at the Hershey Medical Cnter in Hershey Pa if you would like to send him a Get Well Card..His Name is James Young and he is in Room 4225.