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01-20-2008 8:05 PM -- By: Leigh, Critters.com memorial: Little Bit Memorial Kathy, I know exactly how you feel. Many of us here do. I am 53 years old, had my baby girl for 18 yrs, 1 month. And I honestly do beleive it was harder to lose her than it was to lose my own mother also. My mother lost her battle with a brain hemmorage and we children of hers had to make the fateful decision of life support. Now I had to make that same decision to release my baby of her pain and it was somehow MUCH harder to do. Maybe it is because our Babies are much more dependent on us for everything in our lifes whereas our parents werent as much until at the last. And like so many others here, I had to wait 3 days to bring my baby back home, it was a aweful trip home, especially the moment we pulled into the driveway and I realized she would no longer be at the door waiting to greet me. BUT , I feel somewhat better because she IS home. My husband and I both decided that whoever of us passes first, will have her buried with us. Kathy, it will get better. I know it doesnt seem like it but everyone here is so wonderfully sweet and understanding. I only hope I can help others as they are now helping me! You may of lost a large piece of your heart ,but your baby's heart will also be with YOU. Bless all the little furbabies over Rainbow bridge and all the mommies and daddies here.
01-20-2008 6:23 PM -- By: Pam, Critters.com memorial: Sade Memorial We had our Celebration of Life ceremony today. It was beautiful. It has been four weeks since our Sade crossed over. I wanted to express my gratitude for this site and all of the people who have visited Sade's memorial. She was a great friend and companion. Mom loves and misses you
Sade. Until we meet again.
01-20-2008 5:51 PM -- By: Michael, Critters.com memorial: Miss Mindy Memorial I just wanted to thank everyone who came to see my sweet Miss Mindy's memorial. The support here has been wonderful. For those of us whose only family is our pets, the heartbreak of losing them is unbearable.
I go to Miss Mindy's memorial every morning when I first get up. I need to see her. They say it gets easier as each day goes by. Im still waiting for those days to come. It did help when I picked up her remains. My baby was home again.
01-20-2008 1:05 PM -- By: Lauvern Pawlett, Critters.com memorial: Luke Memorial Hi Kathy.I am so sorry you are hurting.Please know you are not alone and we will get through this.It is almost eight months since i lost my Luke and the pain is still there.I feel lost without him but i know we have to move on with our lives.I promise the pain will ease some with time. Stay strong. Murphy is a beautiful baby.hugs.
01-20-2008 12:29 PM -- By: Amber, Critters.com memorial: Nvwati Memorial Kathy we so understand your loss.
I just visited your memorial for Murphy. What a sweet boy he is.
01-20-2008 9:42 AM -- By: Kathy, Critters.com memorial: Murphy Memorial Today will be my second day without my boy Murphy. I don't think I can do this. Yesterday I spent the whole day on the couch crying. I don't know what today will bring, but it has started out the same way. I don't know how to do this.
We have no children, and he was our baby, now I feel such a tremendous loss I can't take it. I am 51 years old, and I didn't even feel this way when my mom died 10 years ago, I suppose since she had ALS, and I knew she was tired of fighting the desiese, and then there was the funeral and things to be done, but with this, there is nothing, he is just gone, and I don't know how to do this.
I miss him so much, I want to crawl in a hole and die. Tell me this will pass. I don't know what to do, and I know there is no way to go back and change anything.
01-19-2008 6:51 PM -- By: noi nois mom, Critters.com memorial: noi noi Memorial I still miss her so much. She brought me more joy than I realized. :( My noi noi I miss you but im happy that you are in a better place.
01-19-2008 4:40 PM -- By: Darlene, Critters.com memorial: Taz Memorial Happy Birthday cute little Colby!
Darlene (Taz's Momma)
01-19-2008 2:28 PM -- By: , Critters.com memorial: Colby Memorial Colby's birthday today. Happy birthday, sweet boy.
01-19-2008 12:17 PM -- By: Cheri (Coco's Mom), Critters.com memorial: Coco Memorial Lauvern, you described exactly how I felt when I was waiting for my girl to be returned to me. I was a mess for the few days it took to get her remains back, but I was better when I had her home with me again. That is why this site has helped so many people. We are able to see that we are not alone in our pain or "going crazy", and so many other people are experiencing the same emotions. There is such a feeling of family who can freely share without being judged. I thank God for Critters, and I hope those that are new to this site will feel free to express their feelings knowing that we all understand.
01-19-2008 9:27 AM -- By: Lauvern, Critters.com memorial: Luke Memorial Hi Sandi. I know the feeling that went through you when you picked up Dawson's remains.It is heartbreaking.When I picked up Luke's remains,i just broke down and cried like a baby.I said "this is not my Luke" he is suppose to come running out to me as he did when he had surgery and heard my voice in the waiting room".But when i got home with his urn,i can honestly say i felt like at least i had my Luke back home where he belongs.I worried myself sick when it took three days to return his ashes to me.I wanted my Luke back home,even though it was only his remains,thats all i have but i feel he is back home.Your precious baby, Dawson will always hold a special place in your heart.Take all the time you need to grieve. Stay strong.Hugs.
01-19-2008 8:39 AM -- By: Amber, Critters.com memorial: Nvwati Memorial Sandi I can relate. When I picked up Nvwati's remains I just sat there in the Vets office crying my heart out. I had Mkwaa ( My other dog) with me and she had no idea what was going on. What comforted me was when one of the staff approached me and he told me he has two of those urns at his house. I figured if he had gone through it twice I knew I could get through this horrendous pain at some point as well.
Nvwati's urn now sits on top of our fireplace along with his other memorabalia.
From time to time I take it down and Mkwaa and I snuggle on the couch and talk about him as I hold him close to my heart ( his urn ). His ashes came tightly secured in a plastic bag which I haven't yet opened. I am not sure if its because I am afraid to open it or if what I tell myself is true: that I will be moving in a few months and don't want to risk the urn breaking and having his ashes end up in my hoover. No pun intended here.
I wish I could tell you the hurting eases but I am not there yet.
I still miss my beloved boy soooooooooo much. He passed away 4 months ago - Sept. 28,2007.
I find working on his site and visiting others here has helped me with my grief work, however.
01-18-2008 3:54 PM -- By: Sandi, Critters.com memorial: Dawson Memorial Today is January 18th.... Last night I picked up Dawson's remains from my Vet. I can't explain the sick sick feeling I had inside. When I got home I carefully opened the wooden box and looked at what remains of my beloved boy. I ran my fingers gently over what remains. How sad to think that is all I have left of Dawson. My precious angel who was forever at my side. I am still greiving for him. I can't believe that's all there is after 10 years.....
01-17-2008 8:10 PM -- By: Cheri (Coco's Mom), Critters.com memorial: Coco Memorial I received a cute catalog in the mail yesterday called "In the Company of Dogs". It contained all kinds of cute and useful dog products with pictures of precious dogs "modeling" the products. I was afraid that it would make me very sad if I looked at it so I put it aside.....until today. I was right. Looking at all the cute little faces and reading the beautiful quotes concerning the love of dogs sent me into a deep, deep sadness and heartache, missing my little girl. I try so hard to avoid the reality of her being gone, but sometimes it hits me like a tidal wave. I guess that's what happened when I looked at the catalog. I hope someday I can enjoy the beauty and sweetness of these adorable little creatures again without feeling so much pain. Please pray for me.
01-17-2008 2:54 PM -- By: Jennifer, Critters.com memorial: BJ Massey-Cummings Memorial I wanted to thank everyone that has signed BJ's Memorial. I miss her so much. It has been 3 weeks since she's been gone and it feels like she's been gone forever. Everyone who has signed the Memorial has been so nice, it has really helped.
01-15-2008 8:10 PM -- By: kristen, Pet's name: My cat doesnt have a memorial here. I do not know the other Chessie. sorry
01-15-2008 8:09 PM -- By: Kristen, Critters.com memorial: Chessie Memorial I had my 19 yr old cat put to sleep today and I have never been so heart broken and sad.
01-15-2008 1:35 PM -- By: Cheri (Coco's Mom), Pet's name: Today is 2 months since I lost my girl. I still miss her so much. I can only hope that someday this date won't cause so much pain. With time. I keep telling myself "with time".
01-15-2008 3:58 AM -- By: Daisy, Critters.com memorial: daisy Memorial I SURE HOPE MOMMY AND MATT ISN'T SNOWED IN..
01-13-2008 7:55 PM -- By: Maria , Critters.com memorial: Stacey Memorial I want to say thank you to everyone who has posted a comment on Stacey's memorial.
01-12-2008 7:43 PM -- By: Rose, Critters.com memorial: Joseph Memorial On December 9, 2007, at 3:00 a.m., my sister's cat, Samantha, passed away in her arms. Samantha was 17 years old. On that very same day, at approximately 2:15 p.m., my cat, Joseph, was put to rest at the veterinary hospital. My Joseph was 12 years old. He became very ill and, although we did everything possible for him, was unable to fight any longer. He was so weak. He didn't even cry when I held him on our way to the hospital. My sister created a memorial for her baby "SamanthaBeauty" and she started one for my Joseph. I have added pictures of Joseph. I am still hurting and I cry every day. Joseph to me was the most perfect cat. He was always with me and followed me around the house. When I came home from work, before I had the key in the door, Joseph would be on the other side crying for me. I feel so lost without him. I feel like no one, except my sister, Yolanda, understands. It seems like everyone else has gone on with their lives and yet, I still long for him. My husband and my daughter took me out today for adoption day at PetSmart. I was hoping to find Joseph reincarnated. I wanted "him" back. It hurts so bad. He left behind a brother, Matthew. I give him all the love that I can although he only wants it when "he wants it." He is a funny guy. At times, it hurts to look at him because it seems as though he is wondering what happened to his brother. There are times he runs around the house, up and down the stairs, like he used to do when he and Joseph would chase each other. One would think Joseph's spirit was here and Matthew was the only one who could see him. But at times, he looks so sad and lonely. I was trying to also find Matthew a companion. I'm not sure if that would be a good idea. Both Joseph and Matthew have been diagnosed with Hyperthyroidism. Unfortunately, Joseph's thyroid acted up and he quickly deteriorated. All the medication and hospitalization did not help him. Matthew, to date, seems OK. He has to be re-checked in February of this year. I'm am afraid that it will also happen to him. My heart is crushed. If anyone can offer me some good advice, it would be greatly appreciated. To Marc and Sharon: Thank you for allowing us to create memorials for our beloved pets and expressing our feelings. GOD BLESS AND COMFORT ALL WHO ARE IN PAIN.
01-12-2008 4:25 PM -- By: Becky , Critters.com memorial: Tobie Memorial Hi Edna - I'm not sure if there is a way to put a link to your cat's memorial on another guest book when you sign it. I did notice though that when you put your question in here you did not put your cat's name or her memoial ID. You can find the ID on your main page when you go into edit. It will be a 4 digit number. Then when you put that in - at least in the forums - people will be able to click on your cat's picture to get to her/his site. I think it is the same in the guest book. When you leave messages make sure to fill out all you can at the top. Then at the bottom put Tobie's Mom or something like that. (you probably won't want to put Tobie's name - lol) I have my son - Brian DeAngelis - on Virtual Memorial and I know you can not put down an http or www address. I think that this would be a good question for Marc or Sharon - they are the best. You can email them from the home page - and also you should leave a message in the forums under technical questions. Hope this helps a little.
To find another pet if you only know the pets name go to search on the main page and put in the animals name. It will bring up all of the pets with that name I think - Lucky for me there are only 3 Tobie's. Guess it's good I spelled her name differently.
Hugs, and sorry for your loss
Mommy to Angel Tobie
Angel Brian DeAngelis on VM
01-12-2008 3:51 AM -- By: Judy Green, Critters.com memorial: Blossom Green Memorial I been sick with the walking Pneumonia and am still having trouble shaking it off..I will try and sign as many guestbooks as I can soon..God Bless you all..Please visit My Blossom Girl's Memorial.
01-11-2008 8:38 PM -- By: edna, Pet's name: i know i have asked before but didn't get a answer.can someone please tell me how i get the link to my cat's memorial to go another guest book when i sign it,also how can i find a memorial tribute if i only know the pets names?i know people who have put their pets tribute on this site but i only know the pet"s and people's name that put it on.i would like to have the link to my cat's tribute put on atomatically on to the guestbooks that i sign but do not know how to do that.can someone please help me?
01-11-2008 5:35 PM -- By: Darlene , Critters.com memorial: Taz Memorial To Daisy's Mommy Kathy,
You are absolutely right about signing the guestbooks, I DO know how much it helped everytime there was a new entry in Tazzy's book...so, I will continue to sign the guestbooks & try to bring some comfort to others who have lost a precious baby, it just feels like words are never enough, but it does help so, I better get writing......I've got ALOT of catching up to do in those guestbooks!!!
Thank you for reminding us that it really does help! You're an angel!
01-10-2008 11:38 PM -- By: Tracie Lil Joe's Mommy, Critters.com memorial: Lil Joe Memorial Tonight is the first time I got on the computer all week, since Sunday Things haven't been Good This Week, But I wanted to let each of you know Thank You for Thinking of Me and my Lil Joe, I truly can not believe he's been gone a year, like you all have said. We read about New Babies going to the Bridge and we all know what there Familys are going through and it Breaks Our Hearts. But with out Everyone here I would have been lost, with out all the Wonderful New Friends that I have met. So Thank you Very Very Much... Tracie
01-10-2008 11:04 PM -- By: cinda berto, Critters.com memorial: Buck and Zhanje Memorial To the person who left the message "I feel like it is my fault that my dog died at a young age." I know how you feel because I believe it was my fault that my dogs are gone and the pain is ongoing and overwhelming. Please know that in time it becomes a little easier, but I don't believe it will ever go away.
01-10-2008 4:00 PM -- By: Richard, Critters.com memorial: Dollie Memorial I found this poem and I thought it a very fitting tribute to each and every grieving parent or loved one at Critters from Dollie and me:
If I could pray a prayer, that would open up the door, that you might see beyond, this heartache washed ashore...
If I could pray a prayer, that would give your eyes to see, a soul embraced by Light, and loved eternally...
If I could pray a prayer, that would wash away your tears, and call upon Holy Angels, to whisper in God's ears...
If I could pray a prayer, that helped to hug your heart, and kept your shattered hope, from falling all apart...
Then count this deed as done, my prayers for you ascend, for your sad and hurting heart, I pray these things...Amen
01-10-2008 12:08 PM -- By: daisy's mommy kathy, Critters.com memorial: daisy Memorial to everyone here on critters that don't think what they write in guestbooks matter well it matters to me.. when my little girl daisy had to leave i was the hardest thing i ever had to do in my life time, and i really do mean it was the hardest thing i had to do.. everyone that has signed her guestbook even if it was just thinking of you or a long letter i would truely like to thank you for that.. every word that has been written really made me feel like i was not alone that there are people out there that know that pain i am feeling and i am not crazy for loving my little girl so much.. so please everyone even if its just im thinking of you or i care or thoughts go out to you and your family please don't stop because it does help out other with some of the pain that we all feel..
01-10-2008 11:12 AM -- By: Toby's Mom, Critters.com memorial: Toby Memorial I too try to go to the pages of the loved ones that have crossed the bridge and leave a message. I try to encourage myself in doing so by remembering how much every message means to me. Just having someone else see how wonderful my Toby was and having the support of others really helps... So try to remain strong in your mission to comfort others. Just saying "I was here and I'm sorry" will help, and be very much appriciated.
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