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02-01-2008 8:37 AM -- By: Amber,    Critters.com memorial:   Nvwati Memorial
JILL does Bailey have a website Memorial here? I searched but couldn't find it.

 


02-01-2008 7:48 AM -- By: Beth,    Critters.com memorial:   Dylan Memorial
I would like to take this moment to thank everyone who has signed my Dylan's guestbook.  Your thoughts and words are great comfort to me at this differcult time, its nice to feel I'm not alone.             God bless and thank you. Love Beth


01-31-2008 10:03 PM -- By: Leigh,    Critters.com memorial:   Little Bit Memorial
Dear Jill,  Hon, you have found the right place to come and share your  grief,  I so understand your loss as I lost my Little Bit just 2 weeks ago.  It is very heart breaking , you love them so very much, they leave a huge empty space in your life you dont know if you can ever fill  again.  Everyone here has shared  your loss and I know you will get alot of wonderful helpful advice, support and understanding here.  They have been such a super help to me, I dont know what I would do if I didnt have the wonderful people here to share my baby's life with as they share their babies lives with me also.  It helps to be able to talk , it has helped me a great deal also to be able to work on Little Bits memorial .  I try to come everyday, although the first  week was really hard as I could barely look at a picture of my babie, let alone write about her and our love.  Time is supposed to heal all, but it also takes support and understanding from others who have or are in the same sad situation.  You were blessed to have your baby for 12 wonderful years. I hope to be able to read and share her story with you.  I also agree you should tell your children. They are much stronger than we think and are capable of such love also and such innocent hopes.  They need to know from you.    Please feel free to text me anytime here , If I can even help in the smallest way, it would help me also give back what I was/am given here.  Remember, she is in your heart forever, that can never be taken away.

01-31-2008 9:55 PM -- By: sharon - critters.com,    Pet's name:   
Hi Daisy's mom,

Thank you for the comment -- We will add a way for each memorial to decide if they'd like the text / font option on their own memorial guest book. If you choose to keep it available for your visitors you can remove any smiley or change the font for any of the guestbooks' left for Daisy in edit mode.

01-31-2008 9:28 PM -- By: ,    Critters.com memorial:   daisy Memorial
i have notice that some changes have been made here on critters.. i do not care for the option that you can now go and sign the guestbooks in color and have silly smileys..  i think the color option should be for page design not the guestbooks...   i myself like my guestbook the old fashion way...


01-31-2008 8:57 PM -- By: Sharon Critters.com,    Pet's name:   
Critters.com is adding new text handling for those who would like to have more control over the style of their comments and text anywhere within their memorials.  This allows you to add italics, bold, paragraph breaks, images, lists, poem breaks and much more without needing to know html coding.  If you'd rather not see the text options you can click the small arrow on the left and it will minimize. 


01-31-2008 6:42 PM -- By: Amber,    Critters.com memorial:   Nvwati Memorial
Jill I am so sorry for your loss. Loving our furbabies, especially those of us who were honoured to have them in our families for many years, and then losing them is unbearably painful. I lost my beloved Nvwati Sept. 28, 2007 suddenly and unexpectedly and when he died he took a large part of my heart with me. It felt like my heart would explode with the pain. I don't have any children at home now but my other dog Mkwaa grieved him so much she stopped eating, and showed no interest in playing. She was so depressed.She would pace our home constantly looking for him.... I think she thought he was playing hide n seek with her or something.My theory is to tell children the truth. Its amazing how much children understand if we are honest with them. When my son was 4 and my daughter 5 we lost a dear goat we all loved. This was their first experience with death, so I let them spend time with him after he passed away, explaining that his body would leave with his burial but he would always remain a part of my life. To this day they speak of Vincent Van Goat with loving memories. I think keeping death a hush hush topic with children only brings on fear of death, resulting in nightmares. I know how you feel about wanting your sweet Bailey back. I think we all go through this. I found building Nvwati's Memorial helped me tremendously. That and this forum. Great people find their way to critters.com and you will get a lot of support.Take care.

01-31-2008 10:41 AM -- By: Jill NIswonger,    Pet's name:   Bailey
We lost our beautiful girl on Monday, after 12 years with her. I am really having a hard time. My children are also so very upset and the constant questions from a 4, 6 and 8 year olds are almost unbearable. I just want her back.

01-31-2008 6:40 AM -- By: ,    Critters.com memorial:   JD Memorial
psst..don't forget mr. jd's birthday..;)

01-31-2008 6:07 AM -- By: Maria ,    Critters.com memorial:   Stacey Memorial
I would like to thank eveyone who had signed Staceys Guesbook for her brithday

01-30-2008 11:47 PM -- By: Leigh,    Critters.com memorial:   Little Bit Memorial
I would like to share a verse I found in the Bible today that has helped me a great deal so that I can truly believe for a fact our babies are in Heaven waiting for us. Ecclesiastes 3:19 -21 For humans and animals both breathe the same air,* and both die. So people have no real advantage over the animals. How meaningless! Both go to the same place- the dust from which they came and to which they must return. For who can prove that the human spirit goes upward and the spirit of animals goes downward into the earth? ( (Spirit of animals) Big key here. )

*= another meaning for breathe the same air is "Or both have the same spirit.

Now to me this proves that animals do indeed have spirits. And as the bible is meant for mankind as it is man who has sin, the rules are for man. Animals are free from sin, and therefore, they go up to heaven to wait for us to get there and join them.

I sincerely hope this helps others as much as it has helped me. I had real trouble for awhile trying to stay firm that our pets have spirits but now I do for sure. I cant imagine heaven without birds, butterflys, and our loved pets. Our God is a Kind God and he would have it no other way.

I hope I have not offended anyone with this, if I do, I am very sorry. As many here have been such great support and understanding, I am hoping this helps you with your loss also.

Thank you for all the great words and support you have all showed me and Little BIt here. I am so glad I found this site, I think you are all a God Send to me and to everyone else here. I wish I Could do more to help y ou as much as you have me and Bitty. Bless you all.

Little bit, I love you baby, I always will , I miss you so much, I just want to hug and kiss you baby.

01-30-2008 5:47 AM -- By: Maria ,    Critters.com memorial:   Stacey Memorial
Well Stacey you are now 1 years old. I hope that you are having a great birthday today. I am going to light some candle for you for your birthday. Even though your not here with me I am going to Celebrate it still. I hope you have a good one Stacey and I love you.

01-29-2008 11:35 PM -- By: Annette ,    Critters.com memorial:   Stimpy Memorial
Hi everyone! I just wanted to say thanks to Bev (Klaus' mama) and Jeanne (Holly's mama) for their well wishing and help getting me through what was probably the worst birthday ever. Sharing your stories helped more than you know. I know I'm not alone in this. Thanks for caring. God Bless!

01-29-2008 9:07 PM -- By: Kendra,    Critters.com memorial:   Twister Memorial
i just want to let everyone know that I will be posting songs I wrote about twister on a special page on her site. It should be up and running by 1/31/08. Also thanks to everyone who visited Twister.

01-29-2008 5:30 PM -- By: Maria ,    Critters.com memorial:   Stacey Memorial
Tomorrow is Stacey's First Birthday she will be spending it over at Rainbow Bridge. If you can stop by her Guestbook that would be great.

01-29-2008 1:17 PM -- By: daisy's mommy kathy,    Critters.com memorial:   daisy Memorial
i would like to thank everyone for the wonderful support that you all have showed me this past six months.. it really great to know that there are so many wonderful people in this world with great big hearts.. i wish i could give each one of you a hug for helping me get though the pain i feel with the passing of my beautiful daisy girl.. i have meet so many wonderful people and amazing babies that have really touched a spot in my heart.. each one of you really have touch my life and have really made a difference i can't thank you enough.. THANKYOU lots of love xoxo

01-28-2008 7:11 PM -- By: Rose,    Critters.com memorial:   Joseph Memorial
I want to thank everyone who has visited my Joseph's Memorial. Thank you for your kind words. I apologize for the delay. It's just that I am still in a lot of pain. I can't get over it. Thank you again for your support. Dear God: Please take away our pain. In Jesus Name I Pray. Amen.

01-28-2008 6:45 PM -- By: Rita Cardinale,    Pet's name:   Chevy
Thank you for this site. It has given me great comfort in sharing my little girl with everyone. I have also so much appreciated all the people who don't even know Chevy and have given great words of comfort to me in her guest book. Thank you all again for your support.

Rita.

01-28-2008 10:51 AM -- By: daisy's mommy kathy,    Critters.com memorial:   daisy Memorial
well everyone today has been six months now since my beautiful little girl became my little angel watching over us.. i still love and miss her so much.. i know one day i will hold my beautiful little girl in my arms again.. i love you daisy.. you will always be my beautiful girl.. xoxo

01-27-2008 10:22 PM -- By: Leigh,    Critters.com memorial:   Little Bit Memorial
The 25th was my Birthday and I had to get thru it somehow without my baby, It was so hard. I didnt want company, I just crying. Now, today, Dad went back to work since you went to Rainbow bridge, and for the 1st time, I was ALONE. When dad would go to work, then it was you and ME, side by side, enjoying each others company and feeling so loved. I didnt know what to do. Tonite I ran outside and cried up to heaven calling your name. I miss you so much and tomorrow will be 2 weeks. Too many events and everwhere I look, I can see you and I know that would be something you would be doing, or you should be walking and following me around the house, or I should be online with you on my lap . They say it gets easier as time goes by, I think ALOT of time has to go by before I feel better. I sure dont yet. But, I want to THANK everyone her who has been visiting Little BIts memorial and signing onto her guest book, It means so very much to us. I added more picture today, another couple of pages and some of the pictures were really painful to do but I felt I needed to. I know my baby has alot of wonderful freinds now to play with while our babies are waiting for us. Thank you all so much. I dont think I could get thru this without everyone here. And I have been veiwing alot of your babies also and it breaks my heart , all the beautiful stories , I only wish I could of met you all under better circumstances . BUt I also think you are all a God send to me and we help each other get thru. Please continue to visit Bittys Memorial and help me keep her memories alive. God Bless! Leigh

01-27-2008 2:48 PM -- By: Jimmy Channell,    Critters.com memorial:   Ce Ce Channell Memorial
CeCe, you have been gone a year today, they say out of sight out of mine. This is no way true. I miss you and love you just as much as ever. I will never forget the day we went to the Vet. That last kiss you gave me I will never forget. I wish I could share it with the world. So they could share it with me. You were so brave, and, I know you were tired of the pain you had to bear for a while. It is so lonely here and everytime I look at your picture helping me drive, I cannot help but cry. We spent so much time going and seeing how muuch you enjoyed to ride. Abbey miss's you also, she still howles nearly every night I know it is her way of talking to you. I am sure you are in a much better place now, and I am sure you have made friend"s with everybody. I miss you being by my side everynight, and when I wake everyday, I think of you. Please remember me in the good ways and Abbey also. Things are just not the same, and I don't think they will ever be. I love toot and will keep in touch... Jimmy,& Abbey Channell

01-27-2008 11:06 AM -- By: Jeanne,    Critters.com memorial:   Holly Memorial
Hi Annette, I also had to go through my birthday with out my Holly. It was just terrible. Not only was it hard going through the day. But I turned 40 yrs too. My family came up and it was very hard keeping a smile on my face. Don't get me wrong, I was happy to see my family. But, the whole in my heart was screaming at my insides all day. Every day was a gift with Holly. So when she wasn't there in body as my special gift it was hard!

Happy Belated Birthday Annette!!!

01-26-2008 10:20 PM -- By: Annette,    Critters.com memorial:   Stimpy Memorial
Hey everyone! I was hoping for some helpful advice. Today happens to be my birthday. It's the first one I had to celebrate without my baby boy, Stimpy, here with me. Bittersweet, as you can imagine, since I don't really feel like celebrating much. But I try to keep a happy face for my family's sake. Well, I was just wondering if anyone else had the same feelings when their birthdays arrived and how did you handle it. It would be good to hear everyone else's experiences. OK well, thanks for listening. Hope to hear from you all soon. Take Care new friends and stay strong!

01-26-2008 7:42 AM -- By: Amber,    Critters.com memorial:   Nvwati Memorial
Sorrow fills a barren space; you close your eyes and see my face and think of times I made you laugh, the love we shared, the bond we had,

the special way I needed you - the friendship shared by just we two. The day's too quiet, the world seems older, the wind blows now a little colder.

You gaze into the empty air and look for me, but I'm not there - I'm in heaven and I watch you, and I see the world around you too.

I see little souls wearing fur, souls who bark and souls who purr born unwanted and unloved - I see all this and more above -

I watch them suffer, I see them cry, I see them lost, I watch them die. I see unwanted thousands born - and when they die, nobody mourns.

These little souls wearing fur (Some who bark and some who purr) are castaways who - unlike me - will never know love or security.

A few short months they starve and roam, Or caged in shelters - no one takes home. They're special too (furballs of pleasure), filled with love and each one, a treasure.

My pain and suffering came to an end, so don't cry for me, my person, my friend.

But think of the living -those souls with fur (some who bark and some who purr) - And though our bond can't be broken apart, make room for another in your home and your heart.

--- Caro Schubert-James ---

In memorium of thoes in our families that make it to the other side before we do ( Our comfort should be in knowing that there waiting for us. )with a stick or ball to play fetch for eternity. where neither will tire.

01-25-2008 4:51 PM -- By: Maria ,    Critters.com memorial:   Stacey Memorial
It has been a month and a half now since Stacey has been gone. I still haver her collars right by bed. Same with her blanket that she slept on. I still think about her everyday. I wish that she was able to run around with me again.

Wednesday January 30th will be Stacy first birthday. And she will be spending it over at rainbow bridge with her friends.

01-24-2008 11:38 PM -- By: Leigh,    Critters.com memorial:   Little Bit Memorial
That was a really nice read, Lisa. Its one and a half weeks now since I lost my Little Bitty , my pain is still intense. I have stopped crying ALL day now but I break down alot during the day. I hope it gets better as you all say, right now it doesnt seem like it though. I am surprised though also that I have been recieving sympathy cards in the mail from people I never would of suspected would acknowledge this type of loss. That has helped ALOT and everyone here has been such a wonderful help to me. I cant even begin to tell those of you who have written and visited Little Bits memorial how much help you have been to me. I want to say Thank you to everyone here and Please visit Bitty's site often to help me keep her site alive. It means so much. Lisa, I will think of your words often, they are very meaningful.

Kathy, I understand totally as all of us have gone or are going thru the same along with you. Your Murphy was a special boy and he knows you will never forget him. You keep talking about him too, it helps you heal. It does me . I felt a little better too once we brought Bittys remains home , and if getting another puppy is what you need right now, you go do it. Only you know what is right for you and I almost envy you . I cant do that yet but maybe in time.

God Bless you all.


01-24-2008 8:24 PM -- By: Kathy,    Critters.com memorial:   Murphy Memorial
Tomorrow it will be one week since i lost my Murphy, I still can't believe he's gone, and find myself coming home from work, and opening the the door and saying " Hi baby, I'm home", and looking for him lying on the couch, even though I know he won't be there. Yesterday we got a message from the vet saying "Murphy has arrived back at the office". We picked up his ashes, which were in a nice tin, with a sympathy card, and rose, and the clay cast of his footprint with his name on it. We are going to see if our friend who does beautiful woodworking, will make us a box to put the ashes in. I will say that it has gotten a little easier, the worst times as far as me breaking down were when I went back to work, and all my friends, who knew that Murphy was my life, because I would talk about him constantly, knew about Murph's death and all gave me hugs of comfort and words of condolance, and even cards. It's funny, I didn't think many would understand my grief, but alot of them have pets to whom they are greatly attached, though probably not to the extent I was. Well, I have somewhat of a sense of peace now that Murphy is back home, and Saturday we are going to go look at some puppies. The human mom has sent me pictures of both the mother and father, and also of a sister from a previos litter. The sister looks alot like my Murphy, as does the mother, except for a lot skinnier. The father is a lot lighter in coloring, but both are beautiful dogs! We can't decide if we want a boy or a girl, or a light colored, or more golden reddish color. There are 11 puppies, and my husband says we should just go there and see which pup picks us. I told my husband we should get two, a light and a darker colored one, but I don't think I convinced him! I am excited to be getting a new baby, but also sad to think that my Murphy can't be here to welcome his new brother or sister. I know that he will be here in spirit, and in my heart. I never thought that when Murphy died I would get a new boy or girl so fast, but since we decided to get a new pup, some of the heaviness has lifted from my heart, and I was able to stop crying non-stop. I think everyone has to deal with their grief in their own way, but for me, I think having a new baby to love is the way to honor my Murphy's memory. I love you baby!

Kathy

01-24-2008 6:35 PM -- By: Cheri (Coco's Mom),    Critters.com memorial:   Coco Memorial
Beautiful, comforting words, Lisa. Thank you.

01-24-2008 3:12 PM -- By: Lisa,    Critters.com memorial:   Samantha Melissa Memorial
Hello all ,My prayers and heart go out to each of you .We all have in common two very important things ,the sharing of the joy and fun ,,memories and wonderful lives spent with our little kids with fur. Each of our "Kids" were precious and amazing in our eyes , they warmed and filled our hearts with the purest of unconditional love .They taught us that love and kindness ,time spent and moments shared are truly the priority of this life . So often we are distracted and busy with the demands that every day live brings but i believe God was lovingly showing us thru this wonderful pets ,so many lasting lessons and "Important invaluable things....Smile.

The second thing we share is the commonaility of Loss....We know each other grief , hurt , pain , moments of utter sadness ....for these kids of our filled a void that few other things can..We have this understanding of love and loss in common. and even as we have this common thread our lives and stories are so veryt unquiqe and differant. Our pets now reside in the place of peace and love where there every need and desire is met . There only missing one thing ...Us ..just as we are missing them. But as we remember and share are stories and share this grief and pain. Know that you are not alone ,and that these emotions and hurt with time and prayer and the sharing you are doing will help you find your way thru to tomarrow and each day beyond ... If you pets could speak just one thing to you ...i Know they would say ..Thank you for every belly rub,,every bone ,,every night you made sure i was provided for with dignity , kindness and love. Thank you to each one of you who gave so unselfishly , to their kids...

Every day i remember my Samantha- Melissa Perhaps thru a song ,or a season, ,watching another dog romp and play ,and at times even in the silence...But i remember the moments i was blessed to have her and in that she has a legacy of the most tender and sweetness kind.

Stop by her site , share with me her life and memories she will bless you and make you smile ...Samantha-Melissa Memorial

To all a warm and compassionate hug and smile ...

My prayers and thoughts for healing and peace are with you ...

May the memories you have and made keep you company and make you laugh and smile....

With Warmth....Lisa Little

01-24-2008 2:57 PM -- By: Amber,    Critters.com memorial:   Nvwati Memorial
Thank you those of you who have signed Nvwati's guestbook or sent me emails recently. It means the world to me. Daily I read over his Memorial and tell myself I have not shown his whole being in his Memorial. Once I am feeling a bit better I hope to spend more time adding more memories, etc. I want the world to know what an amazing boy he was! I don't feel that I have done him justice yet so I hope to do something about that. It's funny eh how life goes on? Throughout this grief I am dealing with some serious health issues, trying to rest as much as I can, working on getting a manuscript together for my editor and fighting with my computer who crashed on me and now I need to dig out a product key for my word programme or my manuscript goes nowhere. Danged thing came with the computer so if there was a product key for this programme anywhere it went out in the trash GRRrrrrrrrrrr. Even writing the manuscript reminds me of my boy. I would lay with him and read what I wrote and ask him if it was reading ok. He and I would spend hours just laying together talking. I sure miss this. What I wouldnt give for one more day of attitude from him, one more butterfly kissy, one more snuggle in bed for a few minutes until he decided he was too hot to snuggle any more lol.


 

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