July 19, 2008 ~ You were my best friend Shabba, and I will never forget the impact you had on my life. You taught me that to love again, after losing Blossom, was okay to do. Thank you boy, and I love you...oh I love you so much! Your very proud mom...
The beautiful skies of South Carolina.
Tuesday, July 1, 2008
Dollie's daddy and I were talking on the phone in the afternoon about our babies. He was parked by a place Dollie and him used to go, to find peace together. Richard often re-visits the places they went when Dollie was here with him. All of a sudden he said he had to go so he could take a picture of the sky and send it to me. Wow! I was in awe of how beautiful the skies of South Carolina are.
Thank you Richard...I feel like I'm looking into a stained glass window of Heaven. Thank you so much my friend. Awesome!
Handsome boy - Taz Hippert - 08/17/93 - 12/08/06
Email From: Darlene, Taz's mommy.
Date: Wednesday, July 2, 2008
I hope you are doing ok today. It's so painful, I know. I really enjoyed talking to you yesterday. Here is a poem I found a while ago that always made me think of Tazzy...it's very sad, but oh....so true. It's for you from your sweet Shabba Lou....
It's time now my friend to let me go,
In my eyes you see I love you so.
It is now...that we must say goodbye,
It's time my friend for you to cry.
In your eyes I see the love you hold,
And now in your heart you must be bold.
Please hold me close as you let me go,
Don’t be ashamed of the tears that flow
Our years together were perfect my friend
This love we have shared never shall end
In you I have placed my love and my trust
You want me to stay, but leave you I must
My time here is over, and so I must go along,
Its time now my friend for your heart to cleave
I see a bright light and I hear angels call
I see love in your eyes as the tears start to fall
I feel your strong arms, so comfy and warm,
I feel your poor heart is so terribly torn
Your tears fall gently down on my fur
Look to your heart, for I will always be there
A moment or two is all that remains
Till I draw my last breath and your heart feels it's pains
My final vision is of the face that I love
“Goodbye my dear friend, 'til.................”
Steve Bateman (2007)
Thank you for the beautiful poem Darlene! Thank you so much for being there for me.
Pretty girl - Coco - 06/16/93 - 11/15/07
I received a beautiful e-card from Cheri, Coco's mommy. I tried to copy the e-card, but the site would not allow me to. It broke my heart. The message in the card was so special, I just had to save it for Shabba's tribute. Thank you Cheri, you made my day!
DATE: July 1st
Carole, I just wanted you to know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. Once again we will get through this together. So many of us are there with you in spirit. I know there is no way to fill the void that you feel. Draw your strength and comfort from your remaining babies and surround yourself with all the love that they feel for you. Keep putting one foot in front of the other and you will continue to move forward through this. I wish there was some way to go around it, but we both know that the terrible pain is a testament to the great love that our precious babies bring to our lives. Ebony and Shabba are together...n a beautiful place surrounded by the love of God.
Cara & Simba - May 2007
July 13, 2008
My brother Gene has two beautiful "real sisters" Cara on the left and Simba on the right who are more than fifteen years old this year. Other than hearing loss they are doing well.
This is an email I received from my older brother Gene on July 3rd.
Good morning Sis,
I had a weird dream last night and was standing here and it hit me. You had concerns that people you know were not acting like you thought they should. Well, people on occasion don't know the right thing to do when someone is grieving. Some people think that trying to mention other things in conversation may help the person grieving by getting their minds off the grief and so they may mention other things to distract the grieving person and in that way they may feel like they are helping. The person grieving has only one thing on their mind and anything else seems so unimportant that it seems rude when someone acts or says things that may even offend the grieving person. Some people won't even approach the grieving person because they don't know what to say or how to act, so a person who may be friendly and approach you may at time of grieving just plain disappear to avoid the discomfort.
As an example, when my friend died a couple months ago, I went to the viewing, but it wasn't what I thought it was going to be. I went in my grubbies thinking I was going to be alone or just not many there. Well, Grace (Dave's wife) and kids and mother and others were all dressed up sitting in the front row. As people came in, they too were all dressed up, would go up to Dave's casket and then go over to the family and others sitting there and would talk to them. I was caught off guard and didn't want to offend Grace by not having dressed better and maybe embarrass her. So, I sat in the back of the room and watched the slide show of Dave's life in pictures 3 times then left. I signed the visitor book but none of them looked around so they hadn't seen me yet I felt that's all I needed to do. I may very well have offended her by being there and not go up and say something no matter what I was dressed in. I wasn't real acquainted with them but still, maybe I should've have done more.
Death and grieving are very sad and uncomfortable times for everyone, for the main people in the life of focus of the grieving and to all that are associated via work, play, or in any other relationship where they become aware of the death. During the grieving, which I have done too, we become super sensitive to our grief and completely self- centered during the initial beginnings of that process. So sometimes the matters of life and who we associate with becomes altered and we aren't thinking with a clear and unobstructed mind. All of us respond in our own way to grief, and do the best we can to handle this complicated emotional period.
I love you and hopefully this will make you feel better at least to the ones around you while you sincerely and respectfully deal with the loss of your loved one. Talk to you later and have the best kind of day that you can. With concern, caring and love, Gene
Lil Joe's mom Tracie emailed:
July 13, 2008
Carole, my heart goes out to you. Always know you're in my thoughts and prayers... Thinking of you always...
Sending You Hugs, Tracie, Lil Joe's Mommy.
Memories flutter through my mind like a butterfly
July 14, 2008
Dear Shabba Lou.
I miss you boy...oh how I miss you. I keep you close to my heart. I love you more, mommy. XOXOXOXOXO
Some flowers just for you Shabba Lou.
Sunday, July 20, 2008
~ Always thinking about you Pappa
~I miss you so much my little Teddy Bear.
With much luv and honor, mommy
A little angel I did not have the opportunity to meet in person, but oh how she's touched my life! Oh Miss Dollie Cothran, how I wish I could have held you...kissed you, and told you how much I love you. I missed out on so much. August 21, 2008 7:28pm (PST). Your daddy just called me and said he was visiting with you and Jake at your resting place...your eternal garden. I told your dad to give you both a hug and kiss for me. You and Jake side by side...I wish I could just touch the ground above you two precious angels. I love you Dot, I love you Jake. I blew you both a big butterfly kiss. Catch 'em sweeties!
Luna is so beautiful!
09/11/08 The two sayings below were written by Nadine, Luna's mom, in a note that was wrapped around a "beautiful" necklace I received from them (I include Luna in everything Nadine does).
"Friends make the journey easier".
"I will be whole again when the light in you meets the light in me" (she wrote this to her precious baby girl).
Beautiful words Nadine...beautiful! Thank you so much for the gift care package of goodies for my babies. I cannot tell you in words alone how much this kind act touched my heart. I cried a river of "happy tears" watching the joy you brought my pups.
Our little buddy Puck Llewis. He is such a joy in our lives. He is the funniest boy, and we always wait to see what the next thing is that he has up his sleeve (or under his scarf.) We love you Puck-a-lu!!!!
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